- To witness a wrong that we experienced and be a force in that moment for making things better.
- To empower the formerly voiceless and listen to the amazing and powerful things that they have to say, and the recommendations and solutions that they have to offer.
- To help plan and facilitate impactful opportunities, and witness the synergy of bringing others together.
- To see the smiles on their faces and feel the warmth of love fill our heart.
- And so much more.
Sunday, December 15, 2024
Holding on to Hope
Friday, December 06, 2024
Getting to Spend Time With The Kiddos
Monday, November 25, 2024
Saturday, November 23, 2024
Friday, November 22, 2024
Childhood abuse and abandonment - and the wound of perfectionism
Reading this insight about how perfectionism is an inner wound that begins in childhood reminded me of my favorite quote since college by H. S. Kushner about not having to be perfect to be loved:
Friday, November 08, 2024
Advocacy: Creating the Things We Wish Existed
This quote captures part of the heart of advocacy: Creating the things we wished existed. Throughout the ongoing history of Ohio foster care youth and alumni advocacy from 2006-now, this has happened in so many beautiful, powerful ways.
The creation of the OHIO YAB, ACTION Ohio, the Ohio Reach intiative, and the Columbus State Scholar Network. The establishment of the Bridges program, the Columbus Scholar House for Former Foster Youth, and the Youth Ombudsman Office.
Creating and orchestrating events and opportunities, such as cooking classes, statewide life skills and leadership events, self care summits, Statehouse Days, Three Days on the Hill, College for the Day, COTA bus scavenger hunts, and Thanksgiving Together gatherings.
And so much more…
Sometimes creation comes with complications. Sometimes there can be a “willful forgetfulness” that youth have authored something. Sometimes barriers come up regarding access to a resource that youth themselves created. Sometimes, by the time. young leaders create something, they themselves are unable to access that resource due to eligibility barriers: “I’m too old now.” Sometimes amazing resources - like HEMI - are “sunsetted,” without ever providing an adequate reason why.
We continue to move forward and we continue to to create powerful, beautiful things. Because the need is there - and we can see it. Because the solution is there - and we can find it. Because the resource is needed - and it MUST be created.
Advocates are artists.
Hubby Love
It’s interesting to me to think about how my personal timeline intersected with our national one. In 1999, the year I met the man who would become my husband, this federal act was passed. And it was the Chafee Act that prompted states to create Youth Advisory Boards, as well as making other services and resources possible.
Monday, October 28, 2024
What Is To Give Light Must Endure Burning
Something I’ve been pondering lately is how foster care advocacy work can intersect with both primary trauma and secondary traumatic stress.
We had a training at the library recently, and the trainer said:
- We need to normalize compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress as part of our work.
- It would be inhuman if we learned about and experienced such painful things and had no emotions about it or didn’t care.
The next step is figuring out what to do, to care for ourselves when that happens. Not IF. But WHEN.
Friday, October 25, 2024
Thinking About the Loss and Legacy of Pat McCollum
Patricia McCollum (Ms. Pat) was an Ohio child welfare trainer and a foster and adoptive parent. She fostered over 100 children, and was the type of advocate who always showed up to support. Above are photos of her at the 2010 and 2012 SW Ohio Thanksgiving Together events in Cincinnati.
In the words of one caseworker:
"The first time I met Miss Pat was after midnight when I showed up at her door with the most difficult client of my career. He was a 13 year old boy with a horrific past, had just been removed from his Nth foster home, and his only options for the night were the office, the psych ER, or this random foster mom’s house. Miss Pat said yes without hesitation and agreed to keep him as long as he needed. To my knowledge, she never said no to a child if she had an empty bed."
In the words of another:
"I have personally worked with several young adults that were from her home. Ms. Pat treated every child in her home as family and that didn't stop when a child left her home. The whole McCollum family embraced the foster community and children. This is a great loss for everyone touched by her and for the whole community."
Friday, September 27, 2024
Statistics Don't Come From A Vacuum
Negative foster care statistics do not come from a vacuum. They are positively and negatively influenced by systemic factors. This chart provides examples.
Decisions made in a vacuum are those that are made without the necessary data, information, or knowledge. They may also be made without the right people with the right perspectives, experiences, and influence.
It's important to consider the context of data when making decisions. For example, the educational outcomes of foster youth are impacted by systemic factors such as:
- 5 school changes on average
- Delays in enrollment
- Credits not transferring
- Never the same textbook
- Hard to catch up on work
- Some youth have IEPs
- Trauma undermines learning
- Delays in permission slips
- Feel discouraged; too far behind
A Fourth Loss: Kimberly Rhyan
The Columbus State Scholar Network is in my heart this week. This beautiful, loving community has lost three irreplaceable people in one year.
Kimberly Rhyan created such a ripple effect everywhere she went that she literally inspired her own oncologist’s office.
The seeds she planted with the Scholar Network have grown into oak trees with deep roots. Her work with the former HEMI program (which needs to return and/or inspire a similar program) will also always be treasured and remembered.
Tuesday, September 17, 2024
Three Losses in One Year
It is raining in my heart today...
The state of Ohio has lost three foster care alumni this year:
- In March, we lost Alexis Smith.
- In June, we lost Jerri Braswell.
- This week, we lost Nikki Chinn.
We will weather through, as we always do -- but it's important to acknowledge that we have had so many losses within one year.
Sunday, September 15, 2024
Footprints on the Road
Those of us who "age out" of foster care, kinship care, residential, and disrupted adoptive placements aren't just trying to build our futures, and make things better for others.
We are also working to put together the pieces of each of our pasts. This is a big deal - and this is a big journey.
Years have passed, but, as a big sister of the foster care system, I still remember this personal journey so clearly. I didn't purchase a car until after college and graduate school. I didn't want to spend money on the bus, and I liked exercise, so I walked everywhere.
There is a road in my hometown that I traveled so many times during my college and graduate school years that it should have my footprints on it.
As I walked up and down that road, puzzle pieces from my past would often come up in the form of memories, and I would jot them down on pieces of paper. So, not only was I getting from one place to another, but I was also quilting some of the patchwork pieces from my past together.
Friday, September 13, 2024
Sunday, August 18, 2024
Tuesday, August 06, 2024
Sunday, August 04, 2024
Let's keep moving mountains, stone by stone
Loved my time spent with Nikki Chinn painting rocks on Friday, August 2, 2024.
When the Ohio foster care youth and alumni movement first started in 2006, my signature line was: "It is possible to move a mountain by moving small stones." These are some of the stones that we are working to move this fall...
Stay turned for progress on seeking to ensure that youth safety is the North Star, that youth concerns aren't screened out when they reach out to child abuse hotlines, and better protections for youth who run away to escape abusive situations.
Wednesday, July 10, 2024
Hope is an essential ingredient in advocacy
We do our work with vision.
And we do our work with hope.
We who are foster care advocates will have days of disappointment. We will weather waves of grief over those who are lost, and those we worry that we are losing.
We will also have experiences that fill us with deep, fierce - and, in that moment, fearless - joy.
There will be times when we are able:
- To witness a wrong that we experienced and be a force in that moment for making things better.
- To empower the formerly voiceless and listen to the amazing and powerful things that they have to say, and the recommendations and solutions that they have to offer.
- To help plan and facilitate impactful opportunities, and witness the synergy of bringing others together. To see the smiles on their faces and feel the warmth of love fill our heart.
And so much more. Let those moments imprint themselves upon your heart. Capture them in photographs. Hold them tight in your heart and remember them when a day seems dark and the world feels full of apathy. We - have - hope.
Sunday, June 30, 2024
Sunday, May 12, 2024
Mother's Day 2024
Tuesday, April 30, 2024
Sunday, March 10, 2024
2024 Voyage Ohio Interview
It was an honor to be interviewed recently by VoyageOhio:
Hi Lisa, we’re thrilled to have a chance to learn your story today. So, before we get into specifics, maybe you can briefly walk us through how you got to where you are today.
As a childhood victim of abuse, I am honored as an adult to have been a part of successfully advocating for the state of Ohio to establish a Youth Ombudsman Office. I entered foster care at age 11 due to my father’s abusive behavior. My mother had passed away a year earlier when I was 10. She had battled cancer for several years; breast cancer, uterine cancer, and it eventually went to her brain.
From ages 11-16, I grew up in a series of temporary placements, including an all-girls group home, a co-ed group home, and an emergency shelter. At the time, there was a lack of foster homes available who were willing to foster teens. At age 16, I was accepted into college at the University of Kentucky, where I earned my master’s degree.
Today, I serve as Communications Chair for ACTION Ohio and co-facilitator of the OHIO Youth Advisory Board. I helped found both organizations in 2006. I am also a founding member and former chair of Ohio Reach, a statewide initiative to increase the number of foster care youth who enroll in and graduate from college.
In my role, I head up planning for our annual early Thanksgiving dinners for current and former foster youth, as well as other initiatives, including College for the Day, Suits for Success, and Three Days on the Hill. I am currently heading up planning efforts for the 2024 Leadership and Life Skills Summit for Current and Former Foster Youth (ages 14-24).
Alright, so let’s dig a little deeper into the story – has it been an easy path overall, and if not, what were the challenges you’ve had to overcome?
It was an honor to be accepted into college at age 16 by a caring Admissions Counselor named Randy Mills. I was able to go to court and become legally emancipated. The next challenge was facing the adult world without support. This is a struggle shared by many young adults lacking in family privilege – I wasn’t sure who I could count on. I felt most comfortable relying upon myself.
By age 17, I was homeless. I had allowed a former roommate from a group home to move in with me because I thought that I could rescue her. I knew that I wanted to make a difference for others in and from foster care. I didn’t know that the time that you can’t “rescue” other people, you can only empower them and make sure they know about available resources and how to access them. It was a bad choice to allow her to move in with me. She never paid rent, refused to engage in work or school, stole money from me, and her actions caused us to become evicted.
Despite being homeless, I remained enrolled in college and kept going to classes. They were a source of stability and the only way I knew to build my future. My belongings were stored in a storage unit that I paid for with the Social Security check that I received monthly between ages 16-18 due to my mother’s passing. I was able to save up money to move into a Methodist dorm on campus, the UK Wesley Foundation.
By age 18, I was safe and settled at the dorm. Fellow residents became my first family. They cared about me, challenged me, and helped me learn about healthy boundaries. With their peer support, I returned to each of my former placements to support and encourage foster youth.
During the several months that I was homeless, the two biggest challenges were figuring out where to sleep and where to bathe. I became very creative at both tasks. I slept in college libraries while sitting in a study cubby, for example. Today’s homeless and housing-insecure youth remain near to my heart.
As part of the OHIO YAB and ACTION Ohio’s annual trips to Washington D.C. for Three Days on the Hill, between 2013-2020, participating youth were empowered to write the Fostering Stable Housing Opportunities Act which is now a federal law. The work of foster care youth and alumni during seven years of D.C. visits laid the foundation for FYI on-demand housing vouchers. I am deeply thankful to have been a part of this work.
Thanks for sharing that. So, maybe next you can tell us a bit more about your work?
I work 60-80 hours per week. I have a paid 40-hour-a-week job in which I serve as a Youth Services Librarian. I love this work — and I love the 20+ hours that I spend weekly volunteering my time to improve foster care outcomes.
The Overcoming Hurdles in Ohio Youth Advisory Board is a statewide organization of young people (aged 14-24) who have experienced foster care. The OHIO YAB exists to be the knowledgeable statewide voice that influences policies and practices that impact youth who have or will experience out-of-home care. In the state of Ohio, it is the youth themselves who identify policy areas to address. Current statewide priorities as identified by Ohio foster care youth and young adults are Child Safety and Protection, Life Skills and Resource Knowledge, Normalcy and Emotional Support, and Youth Voices in Court and Elsewhere.
Alumni of Care Together Improving Outcomes Now Ohio (ACTION Ohio) is dedicated to improving outcomes for current and former foster care youth. We are a volunteer organization, and our membership is primarily comprised of former foster youth, ages 18+, with no age cap. We make it possible for today’s teens and young adults, in and from foster care, to share their insights regarding local, state, and national policy. We have been able to orchestrate college visits, statewide conferences, and Self Care Summits for current and former foster youth. By facilitating annual Thanksgiving dinners, we provide peer support and a sense of family. During our 2023 Thanksgiving Together events, we even had a cloth tree with fabric leaves that participants could sign, and their leaves were ironed on to be a part of our Chosen Family.
What’s next?
We are currently preparing to host the 2024 Leadership and Life Skills Summit for current and former foster youth ages 14-24. This will be Ohio’s first statewide foster youth conference since 2019. We are deeply grateful to have made it beyond the pandemic and to have support to host this year’s event.
Lived experience will be prioritized in event planning and facilitation. In the spirit of youth leadership, every workshop will include youth voice in the development of content to be presented. Foster care alumni ages 24+ will also be invited to co-facilitate workshops and other activities.
During the Summit, one room will be set aside for Suits for Success. There will be volunteers on hand to show youth how to tie their first tie. Young people in and from foster care will be able to keep the suits and wear them as needed for job interviews and other important life events.
So far, we have received 300 brand-new clothing donations for young men and are currently preparing to do a clothing drive for young women. We are also looking for an additional donation of storage space here in Columbus, Ohio. Our current storage location is at capacity with the men’s clothing donations, which exceeded our expectations in the best and most beautiful way possible.
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Tuesday, February 13, 2024
Friday, January 12, 2024
Four Things I Didn't Know - And One Thing I Did
When I received the results of the rapid test, and it said "Influenza A," that literally meant nothing to me:
- I don't recall ever having the flu before.
- I thought it was just another word for a cold or virus.
- I didn't know that flu symptoms and severity can be comparable to COVID:
After leaving work early due to sudden onset of sickness, I had my husband take my temperature. I was surprised that it was 99 degrees, particularly since my everyday temperature runs lower than the norm. I am rarely cold, but I spent several days shivering uncontrollably. I didn't expect to experience fevers every day for four days in a row.
3.) How much can coughs hurt?
I am no stranger to upper respiratory infections, and I've struggled with prolonged laryngitis before. During this flu, I found myself coughing until tears streamed from my eyes, feeling the rhythm of pain in my upper chest and coughing up blood.
4.) How long does the flu last?
Still waiting that one out.
5.) But there was one thing I did know and do know:
My husband deeply loves me. He, too, has the flu, but a lesser variant than mine. He's always had a stronger immune system. And he had a recent flu vaccine, which might be lessening his symptoms. He had recently insisted upon an impromptu romantic dinner with me (his workaholic wife), which is undoubtedly - and ironically - where we both caught the flu.